Tuesday, 7 August 2012
"D Honeybezzz" and You!
A girl travelling alone…
you would be made a pass at, every once in a while. This isn’t because
the men you come across are in love with you (as most of them would
say) on any combination of your beauty, brain or body but because they
are MEN. I don’t say women don’t as they too have a MEN in them but
with a prefix “wo” which means wife. A breed just almost casual to get
laid with any woman exception to which is a man who is truly committed
to someone. For the other types – the ball is always in your court.
I call them “D honeybezzz” … I have heard few calling them Dickheads.. trust me its for a reason.
I was fortunate-unfortunate enough to deal with few during my travelling time and otherwise too. And its really interesting to note how within a moment the proposal will happen and the next moment based on your rejection, the blames will come out. You will suddenly be charged of being a boring and silly person… I mean this seems a faster turnover than a chumming woman's mood swing. But then I cant ignore the fact that I met so many men and women who made me wiser in so many ways including “D honeybezzz”.
So few things to watch if you do not intent to bed with someone thus saving yourself from getting into a situation:
I call them “D honeybezzz” … I have heard few calling them Dickheads.. trust me its for a reason.
I was fortunate-unfortunate enough to deal with few during my travelling time and otherwise too. And its really interesting to note how within a moment the proposal will happen and the next moment based on your rejection, the blames will come out. You will suddenly be charged of being a boring and silly person… I mean this seems a faster turnover than a chumming woman's mood swing. But then I cant ignore the fact that I met so many men and women who made me wiser in so many ways including “D honeybezzz”.
So few things to watch if you do not intent to bed with someone thus saving yourself from getting into a situation:
- Interact with someone of your choice and not as someone’s choice.
- Know the moment when you should raise your voice not in pitch but in words.
- Be wisely apprehensive in making mistakes and even wiser in learning from them.
- Get drunk not smashed. Talk and share when you feel like.
- Come on.. lets go for some gig, and stop being so apathetic – see this coming.
- Never get too pally with the place of stay’s stakeholders.
New passport in 11 Months..
A request made to the
airport immigration officer: in mar’11 to stamp on a fresh page for
cheap thrills vs. in jan’12 to consider stamping on one of the used
pages to save myself from the effort of a passport reapplication is a
story worth editing.
India -> Malaysia -> Singapore -> Malaysia -> Thailand -> Laos -> Vietnam -> Cambodia -> Malaysia -> Singapore -> Hong Kong -> Macao -> Hong Kong -> Singapore -> Tioman Island -> Singapore -> Thailand -> Singapore -> Indonesia -> Singapore -> Malaysia -> India (Kolkata – Jharkhand – Bihar – Delhi – Goa – Mumbai – Jharkhand – Kolkata) -> Malaysia -> Singapore -> New Zealand -> Singapore -> India (Chennai – Bangalore – Lucknow – Gorakhpur) -> Nepal -> India (Jharkhand – Delhi – Mumbai – Kolkotta – Jharkhand – Gujarat – Mumbai) -> Thailand -> Singapore -> Philippines -> Singapore -> Indonesia -> India (Mumbai – Kasol – Rishikesh – Delhi) -> Hong Kong.
55 stamps in 11 months led me to a Jumbo passport by Indian High Commission.. I wanted to travel with an entry ticket to any place and “May be” & “I don’t know” with the only two words as a plan to the forward.
From missing my flights.. to hitch-hiking.. to feeling the pleasure and pain of a 3 inch needle piercing across my nose bone.. to assisting a woman get aborted.. to getting rejected at the border/embassy for visas.. to traveling in an almost broken bus for 2.5 days-3 nights without a break.. to getting in a spot with no money and starving to death from hunger.. to snatch fighting my lungs out with a taxi driver when left in the middle of nowhere with an exorbitant fare charged/bus conductor when he forced us to get down at some random place hours before my destination coz apparently he fucked up the maths.. to experiencing the heights of helplessness coz of one single lie.. to communicating with people to find my way when no one without exaggeration understood any common language.. to knocking at random doors for trying my luck to couchsurf.. to living out of a backpack for almost a year and out of a campervan for weeks.. to using everypossible way of commute for getting around.. to meeting the most classical crooks.. to biking across a whole country for days.. to dealing with exigencies with any receipt cut.. to getting hammered in the world famous beach parties or being a part of festivals that got busted.. to getting adventurous through Quad biking, Skydiving, Glacier trek, Helmet diving, Water rafting, Bamboo sailing, Safaris, Fire jump ropes, Zorbing, treking.. to learning how to float and later swim in the sea.. to sleeping on the road side places or literally on road sometimes with my sleeping bag as the most comfortable mattress around.. to having to eat everything that crawls and smells including goat blood.. to tenting in dark and realising the world around in the morning.. to getting hosted by the most random people and places.. to having the most expensive encounters with the police.. to working for weeks as a caretaker and in a shack to earn for some living.. to reach various levels of high through names and ways I never knew.. to encountering black magic and god.. to creating a plan and then depleting it myself within no time coz there was never a plan.. to experiencing the most beautiful creations of nature and human art.. to absolutely doing nothing (no phone and no internet for months together).. to getting an extending arm from ways and means I never imagined.. to falling in love.. to getting married.. to travelling and meeting with people from all across the world and getting to know so much about their experiences, culture and facts.. to volunteering for a Children’s home.. to learning to let things go, the elementary issues of interest.
The more I saw things, the more I realised the minusculity of money to live life and the more I challenged my cocoon, the more I realised the concept of “no fear as it doesn’t matter”. It taught me to stop and value real stuff. We always know it but we ignore it. Also that one should dream for the best but be prepared for the worst. Life doesn’t stop for anyone and that’s the only rule of reality. If life doesn’t, human should be kept way beyond one’s expectation. Every relation contributes losses and gains to us in some extent. The key is to always mantain your position and remember to stand up with every fall. Do everything for something/someone but not to the extent that you become nothing/no-one when that entity is gone. Its your life as you have decided it, decisions made by you in the past have put you in the shoes you are in today and that’s the only truth. There is no one else to appreciate or blame for. And of-course there is magic by the angels … Identify them.
India -> Malaysia -> Singapore -> Malaysia -> Thailand -> Laos -> Vietnam -> Cambodia -> Malaysia -> Singapore -> Hong Kong -> Macao -> Hong Kong -> Singapore -> Tioman Island -> Singapore -> Thailand -> Singapore -> Indonesia -> Singapore -> Malaysia -> India (Kolkata – Jharkhand – Bihar – Delhi – Goa – Mumbai – Jharkhand – Kolkata) -> Malaysia -> Singapore -> New Zealand -> Singapore -> India (Chennai – Bangalore – Lucknow – Gorakhpur) -> Nepal -> India (Jharkhand – Delhi – Mumbai – Kolkotta – Jharkhand – Gujarat – Mumbai) -> Thailand -> Singapore -> Philippines -> Singapore -> Indonesia -> India (Mumbai – Kasol – Rishikesh – Delhi) -> Hong Kong.
55 stamps in 11 months led me to a Jumbo passport by Indian High Commission.. I wanted to travel with an entry ticket to any place and “May be” & “I don’t know” with the only two words as a plan to the forward.
From missing my flights.. to hitch-hiking.. to feeling the pleasure and pain of a 3 inch needle piercing across my nose bone.. to assisting a woman get aborted.. to getting rejected at the border/embassy for visas.. to traveling in an almost broken bus for 2.5 days-3 nights without a break.. to getting in a spot with no money and starving to death from hunger.. to snatch fighting my lungs out with a taxi driver when left in the middle of nowhere with an exorbitant fare charged/bus conductor when he forced us to get down at some random place hours before my destination coz apparently he fucked up the maths.. to experiencing the heights of helplessness coz of one single lie.. to communicating with people to find my way when no one without exaggeration understood any common language.. to knocking at random doors for trying my luck to couchsurf.. to living out of a backpack for almost a year and out of a campervan for weeks.. to using everypossible way of commute for getting around.. to meeting the most classical crooks.. to biking across a whole country for days.. to dealing with exigencies with any receipt cut.. to getting hammered in the world famous beach parties or being a part of festivals that got busted.. to getting adventurous through Quad biking, Skydiving, Glacier trek, Helmet diving, Water rafting, Bamboo sailing, Safaris, Fire jump ropes, Zorbing, treking.. to learning how to float and later swim in the sea.. to sleeping on the road side places or literally on road sometimes with my sleeping bag as the most comfortable mattress around.. to having to eat everything that crawls and smells including goat blood.. to tenting in dark and realising the world around in the morning.. to getting hosted by the most random people and places.. to having the most expensive encounters with the police.. to working for weeks as a caretaker and in a shack to earn for some living.. to reach various levels of high through names and ways I never knew.. to encountering black magic and god.. to creating a plan and then depleting it myself within no time coz there was never a plan.. to experiencing the most beautiful creations of nature and human art.. to absolutely doing nothing (no phone and no internet for months together).. to getting an extending arm from ways and means I never imagined.. to falling in love.. to getting married.. to travelling and meeting with people from all across the world and getting to know so much about their experiences, culture and facts.. to volunteering for a Children’s home.. to learning to let things go, the elementary issues of interest.
The more I saw things, the more I realised the minusculity of money to live life and the more I challenged my cocoon, the more I realised the concept of “no fear as it doesn’t matter”. It taught me to stop and value real stuff. We always know it but we ignore it. Also that one should dream for the best but be prepared for the worst. Life doesn’t stop for anyone and that’s the only rule of reality. If life doesn’t, human should be kept way beyond one’s expectation. Every relation contributes losses and gains to us in some extent. The key is to always mantain your position and remember to stand up with every fall. Do everything for something/someone but not to the extent that you become nothing/no-one when that entity is gone. Its your life as you have decided it, decisions made by you in the past have put you in the shoes you are in today and that’s the only truth. There is no one else to appreciate or blame for. And of-course there is magic by the angels … Identify them.
Opted Months of Nomadism!
Took me almost a year to gather the courage of "LIVING TRUE GYPSY"...
Always been a Hippie at Heart and a Gypsy at Move, who believed on the
"One Extra Mile" which when taken defines self from within and
outside... I am so glad i walked that extra mile being venturous as my
only asset besides me.
My journey started with No fixed plan in Head and Anxiety in Heart only to realize "This is not a vacation" but that also, "There is a way out" and "Everything in life works out" though still left wondering "HOW THE HELL????"
I can only produce an AFTERMATH once I am able to build an equation after and if ever I touch "The Tipping Point".... So for now, I never seem to find "The right Thing.. At The right Place.. At The right Time" except my "Opted Months of Nomadism"
Experiencing the extreme of all Positive and Negative Emotions in these months and back, has introduced me to "LIFE BEYOND".. Beyond my Imagination... So when I look back, the only thing that registers - I CAN DO THIS FOREVER!!!
The story of my Life should be Bigger than the Length of my Life. Love!
My journey started with No fixed plan in Head and Anxiety in Heart only to realize "This is not a vacation" but that also, "There is a way out" and "Everything in life works out" though still left wondering "HOW THE HELL????"
I can only produce an AFTERMATH once I am able to build an equation after and if ever I touch "The Tipping Point".... So for now, I never seem to find "The right Thing.. At The right Place.. At The right Time" except my "Opted Months of Nomadism"
Experiencing the extreme of all Positive and Negative Emotions in these months and back, has introduced me to "LIFE BEYOND".. Beyond my Imagination... So when I look back, the only thing that registers - I CAN DO THIS FOREVER!!!
The story of my Life should be Bigger than the Length of my Life. Love!
Sufficient vs Insufficient Commencement Ratio
My illusionary so called
planning for months on quitting ‘Life as Usual’ ended with a
realization that all this while I was only working towards finding the
answer of the most elementary question – ‘Should I’ or ‘Should I not’…
Effectuation has always been easy for me with the resolution of that
elementary question.
So I started…. Only to realize with time that my bucket ratio of insufficiencies are way to higher. Starting with my incomplete implementation plan to insufficient bank balance to inaccurate know-hows of the whole coming one year, I was all set to move. Topping it all, had a credit card with no known information and a mobile phone with no SIM. But I am good at playing the game with having a full proof opinion about everything (This was one of the most important changes that I felt in me as an aftermath of my trip)… For this one I pitched the concept of ‘Analysis Paralysis’ to myself….Too much planning will only make things and head more complicated.
In the whole pool of insufficiencies, what I had in abundance was 1.My determination, 2.Country Information Guide book and, 3. My relationships. The combo of the stated did it for me. They made me crazy but they put me in peace more.. they made me cry but they made me laugh more.. they made me hate them but they made me love them more. With time I got so many voluntary donations in cash and kind from various sources and ways I never imagined. But trust me – I earned it… I earned it all. My insufficient commencement on all aspects of my decision later became my learnings.. Made me a better self.
One says ‘You don’t plan at all.. you decide and jump’. True its put me into a lot of trouble but then I asked for it. I think that’s ME. And with the same attitude over a decade now, I broadly regret Nothing.
Quitting Engineering – I gained all the corporate achievements that I would have otherwise too.
Relationship break-up – I met Kunal and he is the best in his own ways.
No wedding till 30 (Believe in marrying only for the right reason) – Made me venturous and an individual of my own (Psycho) ;-)
Leaving my most comfortable and loving city – Introduced me to various other human kinds and aspects of life.
Quitting my job and Life as Usual – Benefited me in so many ways I am still wondering and is yet to be penned down.
That doesn’t mean my way is the right way… it just means my way could be a way :-) Love!
So I started…. Only to realize with time that my bucket ratio of insufficiencies are way to higher. Starting with my incomplete implementation plan to insufficient bank balance to inaccurate know-hows of the whole coming one year, I was all set to move. Topping it all, had a credit card with no known information and a mobile phone with no SIM. But I am good at playing the game with having a full proof opinion about everything (This was one of the most important changes that I felt in me as an aftermath of my trip)… For this one I pitched the concept of ‘Analysis Paralysis’ to myself….Too much planning will only make things and head more complicated.
In the whole pool of insufficiencies, what I had in abundance was 1.My determination, 2.Country Information Guide book and, 3. My relationships. The combo of the stated did it for me. They made me crazy but they put me in peace more.. they made me cry but they made me laugh more.. they made me hate them but they made me love them more. With time I got so many voluntary donations in cash and kind from various sources and ways I never imagined. But trust me – I earned it… I earned it all. My insufficient commencement on all aspects of my decision later became my learnings.. Made me a better self.
One says ‘You don’t plan at all.. you decide and jump’. True its put me into a lot of trouble but then I asked for it. I think that’s ME. And with the same attitude over a decade now, I broadly regret Nothing.
Quitting Engineering – I gained all the corporate achievements that I would have otherwise too.
Relationship break-up – I met Kunal and he is the best in his own ways.
No wedding till 30 (Believe in marrying only for the right reason) – Made me venturous and an individual of my own (Psycho) ;-)
Leaving my most comfortable and loving city – Introduced me to various other human kinds and aspects of life.
Quitting my job and Life as Usual – Benefited me in so many ways I am still wondering and is yet to be penned down.
That doesn’t mean my way is the right way… it just means my way could be a way :-) Love!
Someone like Her!
She is the one.. The one who appeals me the most.. The one I always aspire to become.. The one who drives me for a better self.
She lives the usual trail of life but still walks on “Off the beaten track”. A same perspective from inside and outside is almost impossible to attain but she has managed to do it so smoothly. Living life not under the influence of society and loving life with all its colors. A person with the most satisfying aura and a golden heart doing everything for its true reason is a person so her. Isn’t as easy as an eye can surf the words through. For years I have been following her like an ant’s angle but everytime I seem to get closer, she seems to get better.
In the process she has helped me Dream.. Dare.. Do. Today I stand proudly having “No Opinion” about everything in life which makes my head open enough to explore and learn. I have this sense of urgency to live as I only have few more days to live and to love as I only have few more moments to express. Life is the daily pleasures and engagements for me. She is my directional input and I am her experimental output.
Who is She? She is someone riding an Enfield wearing Harley shoes… hair all messed up…clothes torn…skin tanned…but still so beautifully hippie in her own ways… On a broader canvas, she is an inspirational image I created long years back and she drove “Me Then” to “Me Today”. All that I did was kept her close to me and not let external factors influence it. It worked for me and I am sure it will work for you.
The art of creating her was a power of imagination that exists in each one of us. Knowingly-Unknowingly everyone does create their own inspirational image. The key is to register that image in your senses and keep tapping your urgency meter button to become ‘Someone like Her’. However one has to select his/her own mantra for the journey.. No doubt there are outer influences and circumstances that sway you and your life but look around. I mean who doesn’t. Birth and Death is equal to all and so is happiness and sorrows with the only difference in their forms. Its just that sometimes we get into selective blindness towards the world around us and also towards the fact that beyond our multiple elementary problems is a bigger truth of the universe – “To Live Life”. I would say living life like your created image, the construction of which is done in total truth and complete honesty to yourself. So while creating it, you have to keep asking “Is it really what you want to become” and thereafter pooling the courage to deal with the journey in becoming “Someone like Her”.
Love!
She lives the usual trail of life but still walks on “Off the beaten track”. A same perspective from inside and outside is almost impossible to attain but she has managed to do it so smoothly. Living life not under the influence of society and loving life with all its colors. A person with the most satisfying aura and a golden heart doing everything for its true reason is a person so her. Isn’t as easy as an eye can surf the words through. For years I have been following her like an ant’s angle but everytime I seem to get closer, she seems to get better.
In the process she has helped me Dream.. Dare.. Do. Today I stand proudly having “No Opinion” about everything in life which makes my head open enough to explore and learn. I have this sense of urgency to live as I only have few more days to live and to love as I only have few more moments to express. Life is the daily pleasures and engagements for me. She is my directional input and I am her experimental output.
Who is She? She is someone riding an Enfield wearing Harley shoes… hair all messed up…clothes torn…skin tanned…but still so beautifully hippie in her own ways… On a broader canvas, she is an inspirational image I created long years back and she drove “Me Then” to “Me Today”. All that I did was kept her close to me and not let external factors influence it. It worked for me and I am sure it will work for you.
The art of creating her was a power of imagination that exists in each one of us. Knowingly-Unknowingly everyone does create their own inspirational image. The key is to register that image in your senses and keep tapping your urgency meter button to become ‘Someone like Her’. However one has to select his/her own mantra for the journey.. No doubt there are outer influences and circumstances that sway you and your life but look around. I mean who doesn’t. Birth and Death is equal to all and so is happiness and sorrows with the only difference in their forms. Its just that sometimes we get into selective blindness towards the world around us and also towards the fact that beyond our multiple elementary problems is a bigger truth of the universe – “To Live Life”. I would say living life like your created image, the construction of which is done in total truth and complete honesty to yourself. So while creating it, you have to keep asking “Is it really what you want to become” and thereafter pooling the courage to deal with the journey in becoming “Someone like Her”.
Love!
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